Antifragile Conversations: Coaching Conversations

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Most conversations exist to reinforce the relationship between people. They’re constant, comfortable, and mainly about reinforcing people's beliefs about the world. Think about the last ten conversations you had. Did any of them change your life? Did they even change your mind? Unlikely.

Now, contrast that with what happens in a coaching conversation. It’s not about talk; it’s about intervention. A coaching conversation is designed to disrupt, to provoke. You’re not engaging in the randomness of casual conversation, where ideas come and go without consequence. In a coaching session, the goal is to break something—an assumption, a belief, a pattern and to create something new.

This is the fundamental distinction: most conversations reinforce the status quo. A coaching conversation, however, is antifragile. It thrives on tension, on uncertainty, because its purpose is to create change, not to pass time.